Synopses & Reviews
Finalist for the 2023 Southern Book Prize
A Black mother bumps up against the limits of everything she thought she believed — about science and medicine, about motherhood, and about her faith — in search of the truth about her son.
One morning, Tophs, Taylor Harris's round-cheeked, lively twenty-two-month-old, wakes up listless, only lifting his head to gulp down water. She rushes Tophs to the doctor, ignoring the part of herself, trained by years of therapy for generalized anxiety disorder, that tries to whisper that she's overreacting. But at the hospital, her maternal instincts are confirmed: something is wrong with her boy, and Taylor's life will never be the same.
With every question the doctors answer about Tophs's increasingly troubling symptoms, more arise, and Taylor dives into the search for a diagnosis. She spends countless hours trying to navigate health and education systems that can be hostile to Black mothers and children; at night she googles, prays, and interrogates her every action.
Some days, her sweet, charismatic boy seems just fine; others, he struggles to answer simple questions. A long-awaited appointment with a geneticist ultimately reveals nothing about what's causing Tophs's drops in blood sugar, his processing delays — but it does reveal something unexpected about Taylor's own health. What if her son's challenges have saved her life?
This Boy We Made is a stirring and radiantly written examination of the bond between mother and child, full of hard-won insights about fighting for and finding meaning when nothing goes as expected.
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"Part parenting memoir, part spiritual guide, part anti-racist hymn, This Boy We Made<./em> is a captivating, necessary story for our time. With grace, humor, and truth, Taylor Harris shows us how to live — and love — inside life's vast question marks. Her sentences glow and sing. She is the warm, witty, wise companion we all need in a life filled with uncertainty." Heather Lanier, author of Raising a Rare Girl
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"The author deploys humor and delight to infuse the narrative with nuance and hope, and her frank, vulnerable voice makes the book feel like a conversation with a close friend…A compelling, insightful memoir about parenting through the unknown." Kirkus Reviews
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"[A] stunning debut…Heartfelt and raw…Out of that uncertainty grew a love and calmness that Harris couldn't have foreseen, and a story of acceptance that mesmerizes with its vulnerability…This is astounding." Publishers Weekly (Starred Review)
About the Author
Taylor Harris is a writer, wife, and mom of three who lives in Charlottesville, Virginia. Her work has appeared in TIME, O Quarterly, The Washington Post, Longreads, The Cut, Romper, Parents, McSweeney's, and other publications.